Monday, July 14, 2014
Monday, May 12, 2014
Friday, May 9, 2014
Friday, April 25, 2014
I don't talk to people because it is all too easy to slide down the slippery slope from introducing myself to subjects that impinge upon my gender identity. If you doubt this, consider the question "Are you married?" But most regular churchgoers are not content to let people be. They are offended by anyone who doesn't want to socialize. In the last church, one gentleman blocked my exit from the row and talked to me in a very stern voice in an attempt to get me to talk. I don't think that such behavior is Christian. A church is a house of worship. Many people worship in different ways. To insist that someone be friendly and chatty is to reduce church to a social club.
After my transition, I went through my own phase of being overly friendly. In one case, I descended upon a woman who would attend every week but stay away from everyone, to the point of standing in the corner after the service to watch everyone leave. After a few attempts to be chatty with her, even inviting her out to lunch, I finally got it through my head that I should leave her the heck alone. She was getting out of church what she wanted and needed. She didn't need me to get in the way.
Thursday, April 17, 2014
Friday, March 7, 2014
Sunday, February 16, 2014
I find myself in the unusual position of agreeing with Justice Thomas. I've met many people who consider themselves so forward thinking that they can't see their own prejudices. They make belittling statements about transgender women; they take actions that denigrate and harm us. All the while, these people couch their words and actions in high-sounding language that is, in fact, intended to minimize and comparmentalize us. The people of St. Mark's United Methodist Church in Atlanta are just one of the many examples who come to mind as I write this. They congratulate themselves on their own acceptance of each other while refusing to admit that their motto "All Are Welcome" is simply not true.
At least the haters are consistent and easy to identify. Liberal bigots try to hide their thoughts and actions for their own protection. The African-American civil rights movement made its greatest gains when African-Americans stood up and claimed their civil rights for just what they are---rights, not gifts from self-congratulating white liberals. Transgendered people should, in my humble opinion, stand up for ourselves and rely less on others for gifts that may never come.